The Carpenter

This is an original post from December 2023, but I felt like sharing it again. It was a good reminder for myself, and I hope it will be for you as well.

It is hard to believe that we are already at the end of 2025. Where did this year go? We are now in full swing of one of my favorite holidays, Christmas! I made a vow to myself this year to not rush through this season and be stressed out by worrying about this gift or trying to attend that event. Regardless of if I get all the boxes checked off my list, or perhaps I miss some of the festive gatherings, you know what? It will be okay. We get our tinsel in a tizzy so many times during this holiday season. Let’s face it, most of the times it is because we are afraid to say no or let people down. This season is about the birth of the one who brought us peace, not chaos, busyness and stress. God never intended for us to live our lives with such demanding schedules. He never meant for Christmas to become such a burden. It should be quite the opposite. A time where we simplify our schedules and to do lists, so we can really zero in our focus on him, and why he came and the great sacrifice he made for you and for me. He came to free us from the bondage of our sin nature and to give us true peace. How is it that we have managed to turn the celebration of the Prince of Peace’s arrival into quite the opposite of the very reason he came? No doubt, he knew we would need saving from ourselves.

So many times, the theme of this season is focused on the babe lying in the manger. You will see this image in cards, movies, Christmas plays, and signs. After all, Christmas is a time we set apart to celebrate the birth of Jesus. I am forever grateful that he came to give me life, not just an abundant life here on earth, but also eternal life with him in heaven one day.

But this year, for whatever reason, God has really impressed on me his possible trade as a carpenter. Sounds silly I know. There was a period of Jesus’ life that we do not know much about. It all started when I heard it mentioned in a quick video that I watched. It really made me start to wonder what his job was like. What did he build? Who did he help? Is there significance to the carpentry work he went into? Did he ever use his trade as a way to explain his purpose in coming here on earth to his local coworkers? His earthly dad, Joseph, was also a carpenter so I am sure that was a factor.

What do carpenters do? They build and construct. They also repair and renovate. They are detail oriented and strive for accuracy. They always follow a plan, could be a sketch or a blueprint. They know the different types of wood or building materials, and which would be better suited for certain projects. They also are aware that a solid foundation is vital to the project’s durability.

Does any of this strike a chord within you like it did me? With each thought I had, it redirected me back to my life and what Jesus has done for me. He has a blueprint for my life. He has tried his best to guide me along the paths he has for me, but I do have free will to choose so there has been quite a few times he has had to come repair places in my life that I carelessly tore down. There have been times where I made poor choices, and I didn’t put God first in my life. The result is a heart more tuned into worldly things. One filled with selfishness, jealously, worry, fear and anxiety. When I finally acknowledge my sins and ask for forgiveness, he will come in and “renovate” my heart. He knows each of us so well, down to the numbers of hair we have. He knows our weaknesses and strengths and that is why he has placed a unique purpose and journey in front of each of us. No two are the same. We each have certain gifts we can offer for his glory. Before the earth was even formed, God had a plan. By sending Jesus to this earth to ultimately pay our sin price on the cross, he set up a foundation for us to stand on and build from. God is our solid rock foundation. The Bible is our “blueprint” to live by. Jesus is the one who can construct or rebuild our lives to set us on the right paths that would lead to him.

What have you built your life on? Do you look to the Carpenter for guidance and help? If not, I pray you truly get to know him this Christmas season. It is why he came for you and for me. He loves you and he wants to help build you a life full of joy and peace, all you have to do is ask him and trust in him.

Wishing you a Merry Christmas,

Hayley W

Pillars of the Faith

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I have been in church my whole life. Forest Mill Baptist Church is the place I call home. I went there as a child, but when my dad was called to preach, we would go wherever God called him to go. I visited many smaller, country churches. When my sister and I started driving, our dad let us choose where we wanted to go. It was hard to not be with my parents, but we both wanted to be back at our home church. Over the years, I have seen people come and go for various reasons, but there have been a few that I refer to as pillars of our church. Those who always were bold about their faith, encouraging others in their walk with Christ. Their servanthood and faithfulness to the church and to God was visible to those who crossed their paths.

For me, a few that come to mind that are no longer here with us are Billy, Jerry, and David. Just recently though another one went home to be with the Lord, sweet Ms. Linda. She was a bright light radiating Christ’s love to those she met. She was so good at making sure to greet any new people that would come in the door at Forest Mill. Over the years she spoke often of the goodness of God and how he is so faithful. I remember her always saying that we need to fill in the gap when our loved ones go home. I will be honest, it will be hard to fill in her gap, she left a mighty one. She was faced with hard times in this life, times of being a widow for several years and being the social personality she was, I imagine the loneliness got heavy at times but she knew God was with her every step of the way. She made that known. She was a devoted church member and a prayer warrior indeed. Her laughter was contagious, and she had a sweet spirit. She will be greatly missed. I am sure she heard the words, “Well done, my good and faithful servant”, as she took her last breath here, and took her first step into heaven. I can only imagine how noisy heaven must have gotten!

I pray that her life and the other pillars we each have had in our lives will continue to be an example to us all. They each faced difficulty but they never gave up on their faith and the promises of God. They are all living out those promises as we speak. I can only hope that more of us can step up and fill the gaps left behind of these devout Christians. The church needs us. May we try to do better. Love deeper. Be bold and courageous. Give grace. Live humbly. Spread kindness and encouragement. Stand firm in the faith and scatter seeds of God’s love where ever we go. Our lives matter. What we do matters. Not just here on earth but in eternity.

Reflecting on her life makes me ponder on the question of how are we using the time God has given us and are we filling in the gaps?

Until we meet again,

Hayley W

To the One Struggling

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To the one who is exhausted from trying to keep it all together and make sure everything gets done – I see you. I know that look in your eyes because I have been there too. Take a moment and breathe. You were never meant to do it all. Surrender your tasks over to God and let him help you carry them. Take some time to rest, it is crucial. If needed ask for help. That isn’t a sign of weakness. Don’t forget just how strong you are. Even God took a day to rest.

To the one whose finances are stretched so thin that it is almost suffocating – I feel you. I have been there too. Keep working hard and doing the best you can with what you have. Your identity does not come from what you own no matter how much the world will try to convince you of this. If you believe in God, you are a child of the king. Keep pressing on.

To the one who has hit that wall of burnout – I can tell you from experience burnout is a real thing. You keep going and pushing yourself to a point of exhaustion. Because you choose to just keep going, you are just going through the motions with no passion or zeal. Somehow in all the busyness, you lost that spark that helped ignite that energy that propelled you in motion to be active in what drives you. It gets hard but you must choose to step back and take time and just be still. Take a break. Nurture your body physically and spiritually.

To one who has strayed from God or just doesn’t feel as close to him – I understand. I have been there several times. I feel like it is just a part of our Christian journey. There have been times when it was my poor decisions that led me to feel so distant, but then other times when I never could figure out why I felt the way I did. I just learned to keep seeking him in prayer and reading the Bible even when I didn’t feel like it. No matter what, just keep moving forward in pursuing God. I promise you; He is not the one who has moved. He is still there.

To the one who is facing some major life changes and you may be drowning in the fear of the unknown – I can relate to you. I am sure my situations are different than yours, but I have had moments in my life where the future was so uncertain that fear had paralyzed me. It is scary. It can feel very isolating. But God. He has a plan for each of us. He isn’t surprised by what happens to our lives. Trust him with it all. Completely. Take it one day at a time if you must. Don’t give in to the fear.

To the one who has prayed relentlessly for certain things, yet they seem to go unanswered – I encourage you to just keep praying. It is hard to keep lifting up the same prayers when we feel like they are not being heard, but they are. Even if we cannot see the evidence, he is always at work behind the scenes. He doesn’t work on our sense of time. I believe in the goodness of God and I know, in his timing, things will work out according to his will. His plans > our plans. Do not underestimate the power of prayer.

To the one stuck who feels stuck in a waiting season – I get it, it is hard. Being patient has never been one of my strong traits. I want to remind you that God has not forgotten your story. You see those around you who seem to be moving forward with life and you feel like you aren’t making any progress, you are just left behind. May I encourage you to just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Turn your focus on your life, and do not get caught up in the lives of others. Stop comparing. Believe better days are coming. Do not give up hope. God loves you. His plan is already in motion in your life, so while you wait, learn to be joyful in your present circumstances.

To the one in a season of loneliness – God is there with you. I pray you feel his presence and his comfort. I pray he will send the right people into your lives at the moment you need them. Please know you are not alone. Reach out to someone if you need to. You probably have more people in your life that care about you than you realize. Isolation and loneliness are two of our enemy’s greatest weapons. He knows we are an easy target when we feel alone.

To the one who feels like they have no purpose – I think we all struggle with this feeling. If you are alive and breathing, you have a purpose being here on this earth. God is not done with you. There is always something we can do in our lives to give him glory. Loving others. Helping others. Encouraging others. It may seem like mundane work to you, but to his kingdom it is very important work. That is why we are here to tell people about Jesus! Remember God is in the small deeds just as much as he is in the big deeds.

To the one struggling with their self-worth or body image – listen to me, this is one of the biggest ways the enemy used to distract me from doing what God wanted me to do. He loves to whisper those lies of being too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, too shy, too talkative…..the list could be a mile long, so fill in the blank with whatever your struggle is. Embrace who you are in Christ. You were created in God’s image. He doesn’t make junk. Learn to love the one looking back at you in the mirror. God does.

Just know you are not alone. I believe in you. God believes in you. Don’t let the hard days overshadow the good ones. We all have things we are struggling with. We are all carrying around burdens. I think if we could see the mental loads, we each are hauling around, we would have a different perspective on how we treat those we encounter. We need to lean on each other and help encourage one another. And no matter what, keep moving forward!

Hayley W

Be Confident

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There will be many occasions in our lives when we forget who we are and what we are capable of and we need to be reminded. So here is a little reminder for you today 🙂

Be confident in the fact that you have a God who loves you more than you will ever know.

Be confident that no matter what sins you may have committed, if you go to him and ask for forgiveness with a repented heart, he will forgive you.

Be confident in who you are in Christ. In the calling he has put on your heart.

Be confident that he is always working on your story and sometimes it may just be behind the scenes.

Be confident that you will have different seasons in your Christian walk. But know he still cares for you and is always waiting for you to find your way back to him.

Be confident that God will give you what you need to fulfill the purpose he has for your life. He will equip you with the needs for the assignment.

Be confident that when you are obedient to his calling, you will face resistance. You will face push back and negativity. But God will have your back.

Be confident that the journey will be lonely at times, but God is with you every step of the way.

Be confident in the fact that you have an enemy and whenever you send out arrows as a testimony of God’s goodness, the enemy will be firing his own right back at you. Suit up with the armor of God.

Be confident in knowing that you will experience times when you don’t feel like you are good enough, worthy enough to be used by God. Maybe you even convince yourself that you have misheard his calling. You have had thoughts of how can God use someone like me? But he can, and he does. His strength is magnified through our weaknesses.

More importantly, be confident in God and his love for you. Stand on his word and his promises. We were called to do so much more in this life than to live for ourselves. We have a God given purpose and it’s when we let go of our desires and align our hearts with his will for our lives, that then we can begin to start to live with true joy and intent.

Keep moving forward,

Hayley W

Give Yourself Some Grace

For grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. Ephesians 2:8-10

Grace is one word I have come to appreciate, but I honestly cannot fathom the depth of it. To have the grace of God is to have his unmerited favor and love. His grace is freely given and we did nothing to deserve it. I don’t know about you but I need his grace daily. Like just pour it all over me from head to toe! I can’t go a single day without messing up. I could list all the ways I fall short, but I will spare you some time because it could be a very long list. He continues to love me despite my failures and because of his love for us we need to learn to show grace to ourselves. After all we can be our biggest critics.

We all have those bad days where we just can’t seem to get anything right. Usually, it turns into a mental battle against ourselves. What is wrong with me? Why can’t I be like so and so? Why am I so stupid? I mess everything up. Blah, blah, blah. I hope you realize that when you criticize yourself, you are also criticizing your Creator. After all, he made you. Yes, we all have flaws. God knows that. We will make mistakes. God is aware of this as well. We all have things we wish we could change but it’s not healthy to continue with the negative self-talk. It can be audible or internal, either way it does damage and the longer you speak it to yourself the more you start to believe it. You must realize that our enemy loves this act of self- condemnation. He is the one who put it in your mind in the first place. He wants you to doubt your purpose in Christ. He wants you to think that you are worthless and not enough. He wants you to think that you have made too many mistakes to be usable by God. These are nothing but straight up lies!! Think of what God has done for you. Your value and worth meant enough to Jesus that he gave his own life for it so that you may have a chance of redemption and eternal life with him. He loves you not just with words but with his actions.

When you have a terrible day, or you have made a mess of things it doesn’t mean you are a bad person. A bad day doesn’t equate to a bad week or a bad life. (Read those first two sentences again if needed) It is just a bad moment or two. Get up, dust yourself off and give yourself grace and carry on with God’s help. Ask him to remind you of his truth. Quite often I pray for encouragement not only for myself but my family too. We need it daily especially in the days we are living in. Everything on any type of media source seems to be so negative and distracting. If you don’t think it is harmful to your mindset, think again. It is necessary to take a break from TV and your phone from time to time. It helps de-clutter our minds from all the information we take in. It really does cloud our thinking. I promise you if you step back and take a break your mindset will gain some clarity and peace.

“Give yourself grace” has become a phrase I use often with my kids. I know too well what it feels like to beat yourself up daily for your shortcomings. It isn’t worth it. It gains nothing. All it does is make the heap of lies you’re carrying around about yourself get heavier. Jesus came to set us free from these thoughts that chain us down, things that imprison us and keep us from being who he created us to be. Do not let the negative thoughts consume you. Do not let the hard days win. Keep on keeping on. If you are breathing then you have a purpose and your life has meaning. Do not let your enemy defeat you with his deceitful whispers. Remind him and yourself of who you belong to and claim the win. Christ is the victor. The battle has been won. Own it and stand on it. Jesus didn’t die on that cross so you would be shackled down by lies. He came to break those chains and set you free. His mercies and grace are new every morning to give you a fresh start. Grab hold of it. Soak it in and rise back up knowing that God is for you and with you.

Keep moving forward,

Hayley W

Word for 2024: Thankful

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Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

My goodness, here we are finished with the first month of 2024. Needless to say, I am running a little behind on posting this. This month has just disappeared it seems within a few days of us celebrating the new year. To others it may seem like it has been the longest month ever. I do find the months of January, February, and March to be some of the most challenging when it comes to mental health. I don’t know about where you live, but here, the holidays come to a close in December, so we greet January already somewhat exhausted. The next couple of months the weather seems to lean more on the gloomy side with dark, gray skies. Temps here are cold so I spend more time indoors than I prefer. I don’t know if anyone else struggles with the lack of sunshine, but it is a real challenge of mine. My mood starts to mimic the sky. It seems like negativity just looms like the gray clouds. I crave sunshine. I need it.

Awhile back we had a few days of intense rainfall and there was one day when it was suppose to come to a stop and I actually included in my morning prayer to be able see the sunshine that day. I didn’t care if it was only for a minute, I just needed to see it. It may sound silly, but my prayer was answered that day. I was pulling into my work and the sun’s rays came beaming through the clouds. I stopped my car and got out to snap a picture. It sure did put a smile on my face and I was so THANKFUL! It is amazing how seeing and feeling the sun can just be a big energy boost physically and mentally. At my work, I am blessed to have several big windows out in front of where I spend most of my time. There are days, when I see the sun peeking out of the clouds, that I will go and just stand by those windows with my eyes closed soaking up all that I can. I chuckle when I do this because it makes me feel like a potted plant just basking in the sun.

The past few years I have chosen to pray and think about a word to focus on for the current year. Do you participate in this as well? Here are some of my previous words I have felt impressed on my heart: Perseverance, Surrender, Hope, and for 2024 I chose Thankful.

As many of you know, four days into this year my dad was scheduled for open heart surgery. We had so many lifting prayers up on his behalf and for the surgeon and nurses too. I can gladly report that his surgery went great! No complications. He spent a week in the hospital and the nurses who took care of him were amazing and kept bragging on how well he was doing. We are 3-4 weeks out now in recovery and overall things have been smooth. I give God the glory for all of it. That is actually how the word thankful came upon my mind for this year. I was sitting in the ICU waiting room just pondering different things and it was like boom – THANKFUL, that is where your focus needs to be. This is an area in my life that I need to improve on. I can sometimes get into the mindset of complaining about this or grumbling about that, and guess what? It gets me absolutely no where. That kind of attitude will only leave you stuck in your negative thoughts.

As I was sitting in that waiting room, I wondered the impact it would have on my life if I could truly focus on being more thankful and showing gratitude for ALL things in my life. Every day. Not just when it is smooth sailing either, but when the seas get rough and bumpy. That may sound easy to you, but I know it will be no easy feat to accomplish. Life gets in the way. It seems like we have way more distractions now than ever. I know it will take being intentional in directing my thoughts and that can be challenging on most days. Some days I feel pulled in so many directions that I just don’t know my east from my west. I feel like I am running around in circles, getting no where. There are times when my heart is so heavy with burdens for my loved ones that I just don’t know what to do next so I just pray. But I know that sometimes my prayers match my thoughts and they are like a bunch of scribbling lines making no sense. Have you ever felt that way? What do you do? For me, I just keep moving forward the best I can. Little steps. Reminding myself what God has promised in his word to those who choose to believe on him. He loves us. He is for us. He has done so much more for us than our little minds can comprehend. He is faithful even when I am not. That is what makes it that more special to me. I have given him a million reasons to not love me, but yet he does and he continues to show me that. And so, I am THANKFUL.

Take a moment and think of a ladder. Now at the bottom of that ladder is a place of disappointment, worry, fear, and despair. At the top of the ladder is a place of joy, peace, and contentment. The steps of the ladder are gratitude, thankfulness, grace, and praise. To get from the bottom to the top, be intentional on practicing these steps in your daily walk. It may surprise you how much it can help your mindset. Of course it is easy to say this, harder to actually put it into action.

I would love to hear what word you have chosen for 2024.

Keep moving forward,

Hayley W