Do you ever suffer from FOMO?

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FOMO: Fear Of Missing Out

I will go ahead and warn you, this post may just step on some toes or tug at your heart a little. If it does, don’t worry, this topic has made me a little uneasy as well. I do feel like it affects everyone, whether we want to admit it or not. It may not be a warm and fuzzy post, but I pray it encourages you . I will be the first to raise my hand. I would never want to admit to being a jealous and bitter person, but……I can be. Let me ask you a hard question and it is important that you are honest with yourself.

Do you ever look around and feel like everyone around you is just succeeding and living a great life, and you are over here in the shadows just trying to survive? It may seem like they are thriving and flourishing, and you are living each day just barely hanging on to your hope and sanity. Most of the time when we get into this mental rut, our eyes are focusing on the wrong things. Material possessions. We start to embrace worldly perspectives on measuring success. We look at what we have compared to others and feel like we are lacking. In my opinion, this is one of Satan’s greatest tactics to use on God’s people, and he is sneaky! In a world with information and social media at our finger tips, we are bombarded with visions of other’s successes daily. We start to compare, which leads to discontentment and a loss of joy in our own lives. The older I get, the more I start notice when this attitude will creep in and I have to redirect my thoughts and my vision with intention. If not, it can lead to a haughty, “holier than thou” mindset. What I mean by that is this, have you ever gotten so focused on the blessings others receive that is makes you question God’s goodness and love for you? Do you become judgemental when others succeed? Are you genuinely happy for those around who seem to be more successful than you? What emotions stir deep within when you hear of those around you getting good news, or receiving blessings? It can range from getting a promotion, moving to a new home, buying a new car, or getting engaged. There is an endless list of things we perceive as successes or gifts that can leave us feeling like we have been short handed by our maker.

Repeat after me:

Their success does not diminish your success.

It doesn’t lessen your value or worth to God.

It does not mean you are necessarily doing anything wrong. It is just a part of life. Period. We all face trials and we all receive blessings. I heard this statement on a podcast by Candace Cameron Bure and Heather MacFadyen. One of them made this statement, and it struck a chord within me. It was one of those aha moments.

When you are living in God’s will, you are not missing out on anything.

As I kept repeating that statement, I have to say that encouragement and peace just filled my heart. The only race we should be worried about is the one we run for Christ. All the other stuff along the way, is just stuff and fluff! You cannot base God’s love for you by what you have, or what you receive. Yes, God loves to give us good gifts, but he is also fully aware of our capabilities, our strengths and weaknesses. He knows what is best for us in the season we are in. He doesn’t withhold anything from you because he favors your neighbor or your friend more than he favors you. God doesn’t owe us anything. I think we often forget about the greatest gift he gave and that was his son Jesus. He died our death on that cross. Even if he did nothing more, we could never live a life perfect enough to pay that debt. But yet, while here on earth, it’s like just because we call ourselves “Christians”, or we go to church, or we help others, or read our Bibles daily, we sometimes feel like He owes us. Yikes….did I just say that??? But isn’t it the hard truth? We are spoiled little brats! May God help me and help you to be better stewards of the life he has blessed us with living on this Earth. May we focus on our blessings and have a heart of gratitude for every day he gives us. May we become aware when we start to groan or complain, whether out loud or within our own hearts, about how we think our lives should be. We each have been given a unique journey to live out. No two are the same.

Some may be asking, “Well how do we know we are living in God’s will?”. Good question. The answer can prove to be a little more difficult and everyone has varying opinions. For me, it is when I am seeking God daily for guidance in all things. When I am being obedient to what he has called me to do. Spending time with him. Relying on his strength for each day. Loving others as he commanded us to do. Giving grace as I have received mountains of it in my lifetime. Trying to live my life in a way that is pleasing to God and not this world.

Easy to type these words, harder to live them out each day. God does offer his help, we just have to ask and accept it. He will never force it upon anyone. He wants it to be an individual choice.

Whether you are living in his will or not, never give up. Keep trying and keep moving forward. Every day is a new beginning to choose Jesus.

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.  James 1:17

Hayley W

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